DR. HARLINA'S SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS / INTERNS - Tip no. 1 - 45

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 1 - Set your intention right. It's neither about the money, the highly respected position and the power. It is about PUBLIC SERVITUDE, serving those who are in need of healthcare. Only after you have served well, then only you could deserve the rewards, privileges and rights allocated for medical practitioners! Welcome on board!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 2 - Have the right attitudes. Being the most junior officer in the team, you really have a lot to catch up and learn. Never pretend that you know all. Never hesitate to admit that you do not know, to ask questions and assistance. Respect those who are more experienced than you. People with the right attitudes are welcome wherever they go, always...all the time!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 3 - Put on your best smile and outstanding manners. Greet everyone with a cheerful salam. No matter how busy you are, don't forget to move your temporo-mandibular joints and carve out a big smile. It will stimulate a fountain of endorphins in your neuron synapses, and aha...the feel-good feeling will set in. Don't believe this? Just try....just do it.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 4 - Work extra hard to convince people that you are reliable, responsible, accountable and able to complete tasks and meet expectations - within the first two weeks! Once people know you're committed, you'll gain their trust, respect & cooperation. Just mark my words!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICER : Tip no.5 - Refresh your inner self with daily, constant and effective spiritual input. For Muslim, don't ever neglect your 5 times daily prayers, no matter how busy you are. You really need that 5 -10 minutes regular breaks. It acts as a cooling oasis for you to rejuvenate.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no.6 : Mend your bruised heart and dented self-esteem, quickly and effectively - each time you received unpleasant reminders of your incompetency & shortcoming from your seniors. It's a part and parcel of the job. Admit your mistakes, but PLEASE, try hard not to repeat them. To err is human, but to keep doing the same error is a major blunder!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no.7 : Keep in touch with your loved ones - parents, spouses, close friends, teachers etc. Don't shut out your life, which mainly linger around your wards, call roster and private room now. There is more to life out there than just work or crashing into bed to recover from sleep deprivation.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no.8 : Make friend with the nurses. Never ever be their enemy. Life would be much easier if you know how to win their hearts. Dr Meena (Paeds MO) gave me this very precious advice : Harlina, be nice to these people (nurses). They will decide whether you will have your meals or not during your calls. Yesss, I later realized how true that advice was!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no.9 : Forgive those who raised their voices at you. They might be angry patients, stressed-up MOs, overwhelmed colleagues, frustrated consultants, irritated nurses etc. Nobody had ever shouted at you before,eh? Being a HO, anticipate your first experience here. Forgive them, forget them and live on. After all, we're all just humans living in the same pressure cooker!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no.10 - Thank God for the honour of being His instrument/tool of Mercy to mankind. A great opportunity is at your doorstep to catapult your good self to be bigger than life. Grab that opportunity and seize the golden moments. Nothing compares with the feeling of satisfaction whenever your patients & relatives say : Thank you, Doc !

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 11 - Handle yourself well when dealing with difficult people. Feeling victimized, bullied and discriminated? After reflecting on yourself, I suggest you pluck some courage to meet face-to-face. Clarify, admit your mistakes and make peace. InsyaAllah, things will be fine.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 12 - Treat your patients as if they are your own parents/relatives. Just as how you would like any doctor to treat your parents, that's exactly how you should treat your patients now. Remember, what comes around, goes around! Motivate your patients always, you'll feel the positive energy seeping into you too.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 13 - Express your love to your spouse everyday, using his/her love language. Let him/her know how much his/her support & understanding means to you. Share your ups and downs, laughter & tears. Thank Allah everyday for sending you this special person. Those who are still unmarried, what's keeping you, guys?

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 14 - Be sincere in treating your patients, be gentle and caring. Control your anger and frustration, avoid explosive emotional outburst in front of your patients. If you really need to release the steam, do it in the washroom with the tap running (peace, Mother Earth)- I consider that as an effective form of anger management!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 15 - Keep abreast with what's happening around you - medical & non-medical, locally and globally. Read the papers, journals & magazines, listen to the news bulletin, engage in general discussions. Have your own opinions. You're a doctor now! People wanna know what's going on in your brain.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 16 - Always extend a helping hand to your peers/colleague HOs.That's the only way to ensure help comes your way the next time you desperately need one. Less of `Me, Myself & I', please! More of `We & Us' now. Be a sporting team member, will ya!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 17 - Make effort to remember names esp. your patients'. Address them appropriately. If you're greeting them for the first time, use `Encik, Cik & Puan' instead of `PakCik, Makcik, Pak Aji, Apek, Aci, Akak, Abang, Adik'. Make quick glances at the patient's file and pronounce his/her full name clearly. Just see how impressed they will be!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 18 - Endure the disappointment when you discover the realities of the system. Witnessing unprofessional, unethical conducts - far from what you learnt in med schools? Feeling upset, angry, demoralized? Good, at least I can count on you to be a future committed agent of change!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS: Tip no. 19 - Learn to read your consultants'/specialists' minds. What do they want from a HO? Dedication, commitment, eagerness to learn, willingness to be corrected & guided. Give them those, and they won't make your life miserable.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS: Tip no. 20 - Keep your room in the HO quarter clean, tidy & cheerful! Hire a keeper if you could afford one.Throw away all the rotten left-overs. Buy an air-freshener & some flowers. Pull up the curtains, let the sunlight in. It's supposed to be a bedroom, not a cave!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS: Tip no. 21 - Spend your salary wisely. Share your first paycheck with your loved ones. Pay up your debts / credit card bills. Recall your financial planning lessons. Avoid weekly shopping mall rounds. Window shop with your stomach full, you'll be able to control the cravings

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS: Tip no. 22 - Push the `pause' button, get out for some fresh air, watch the sunrise/sunset. Reflect & contemplate. Remember, you just a small part of a very complex design. Put your perspectives back on track. Inhale & exhale - be grateful to Allah for everything you have.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 23 - Volunteer to help arranging the call roster.Experience the pain in accomodating all requests and dealing with unhappy colleagues who could not get their wishes. Best time to learn how to give & take here!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 24 - Be friendly & mix around with everyone. Do not reserve your greetings only for the bosses & VIPs. Greet the staff nurses, PKs, cleaners, security guards, gardeners etc. Drink your coffee at the pantry. Stop being choosy & selective. Snobs are lonely people.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 25 - Pray for your patients' well-being. Support their emotional & spiritual needs. Listen to their stories. Don't be afraid to be close to your patients. You will learn how to detach your emotions & rational thinking while looking after patients - so you'll remain objective and professional.Learn the balance to keep the ideal distance between you and the patients.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 26 - Surprise those who look down upon you by exceeding their expectations. Impress those who think highly of you by exceeding their expectation too. Whatever it is, do your level best. Be brave to take up challenges, be humble enough to ask for assistance and be ready to receive feedback - Recipe for a satisfying career!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 27 - Do not allow self pity to consume you now. Never curse yourself. Regretting your life choice of becoming a medical doctor, feeling envious with those friends who are enjoying life, free to do whatever they like? Well, I bet they're envious of YOU too! Just hang on there, persevere & be strong.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 28 - Admit your mistakes and try to redeem yourself. It takes a lot of courage, self-esteem and confidence to own up for your shortcomings. At the same time, do not boast around and inflate yourself. If you've really done good, let others acknowledge. You do not have to keep reminding others.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 29 - Enhance your medical knowledge thru' revising textbooks/notes ( I hope you haven't sold all textbooks to the juniors in med school!). Get answers to questions ASAP. Experience medicine with accurate knowledge/information, not simply following orders like zombies -without critical thinking.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 30 - Let the deaths of your patients serve as gentle reminders/ tazkeerah - that you will also face yours, sooner or later. Treat the dead with respect, whoever they were. Look at those cold, still bodies - now separated from their souls. Pray for them. Convey your condolences to the mourning relatives... they'll appreciate that.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 31 - Keep in touch with your emotions, but avoid being overwhelmed. Acknowledge the anger, sadness, frustration, confusion etc. Don't simply brush them off, what more trying to stiffle them! Manage those emotions - you're a human being, not a robot! Ventilate, it helps clearing up your lungs & mind.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 32 - Promise yourself that you're gonna make one person smile today! He/she might be your patient, colleague, MO, consultant, staff or spouse & parents at home. Simple rule of life - if you wanna smile, make another person smile, if you wanna be happy, make another person happy, if you want people to appreciate you, appreciate others first!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 33 - Commit yourself to life long learning from your surroundings. Your patients are your best teachers. Learn how they handle bad news, manage their emotions, ask for help and accept their fate. Despite all the pain & sorrow, they still tell you how much they appreciate what you've done for them.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 34 - Master the negotiation skills, otherwise life can be so inflexible and stressful. No matter how busy, there is definitely time for short prayers, quick meals, brief naps & shower time. The secret? You just have to know how to negotiate with people around you.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 35 - Start scribbling your life journal / log book. You're facing new challenges everyday, it's too precious to simply let them pass by without any acknowledgment. Write down the lessons learnt. You will have to share those with others one day.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 36 - Agree to disagree - the best way to handle difference of opinions. Speak your mind out, share your concerns & input. Don't be a YES-man all the time, people won't notice that you exist! Learn to say ` I beg to differ' as a subtle way to say `No, I don't agree with you!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 37 - Observe your consultant's leadership style closely - emulate what is exemplary, avoid what is not impressive. Do not get involved in power play. Be principle-centred. At times you have to disagree with your friend if he/she is wrong and compliment your enemy if he/she is doing the right thing

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 38 - Be professional - what does that mean in simple term? Doing the right thing when nobody is watching! Three elements of professionalism - self reflection, self regulation, self correction. You're expected to give your best and place patient's interest above self! How's that?

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 39 - Put aside some money for charity. For Muslims, start saving for your Hajj pilgrimage. Make time to open Tabung Haji account, if you haven't done that yet. Share and be generous. Enjoy the feel-good feeling of sharing your wealth with others.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 40 - Try to perform one task extra than what is expected of you each day. This is to avoid boredom out of routinized activities. How about volunteering to push the patient's trolley to the OT, buying lunch at the warong for the ward staff or helping a patient to the washroom? Yes, it is not YOUR job, I know. I'm just suggesting. Don't be angry with me!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 41 - Ask yourself these questions time and again: `Is this world a better place because I am around?' Do I make a difference?' Human beings need to have answers to those questions. It's our spiritual need : self-actualization in Maslow's Pyramid on Hierarchy of Human Needs.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 42 - Always end your conversation with your patients with this magical question : ` Is there anything else that you would like to know from me?' So many questions can spring out from the patient's mouth - worries, concerns and misunderstanding which need immediate attention & clarification. Now you know why so many patients did not turn up for their follow-up visits, eh?

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 43 - Visualize who you would be in 10 years time. It's not too early to apply creative visualization techniques now. That's the first step towards your success. Come on guys, you shouldn't just barely survive this housemanship, you have to succeed!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 44 - Keep holding to your principles, even when nobody seems to bother. Be the only one doing the right thing, tho' everyone else seem to favour & do the opposite. Truth will always prevail, sooner or later. You have to be strong to be a person of substance & integrity.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR HOUSE OFFICERS : Tip no. 45 - Be an outstanding team member. Always be helpful, considerate and committed. Be ready to take up leadership role whenever necessary. At the same time, don't be bullied around. Defend your rights, stand strong on your ground. You'll be liked and respected, just mark my words!


Loves,
Dr. Har (( Alumni HO ; General Hospital KL - August 1991 to July 1992)

the end of a journey....

Today is the day my life begins
Today, I become a citizen of the world,
Today, I become a grown up,
Today, I become accountable to someone other than myself and my parents,
accountable for more than my grades,
Today, I become accountable to the world, to the future,
to all the possibilities that life has to offer,
Starting today, my job is to show up, wide-eyed and willing and ready,
For what? I don't know.
For anything. For everything.
To take on life. To take on love.
To take on the responsibility and possibility.
Today my friends, our lives begin.
And I for one, can't wait.

My a-year-wiser ABAH...

He never looks for praises
He's never one to boast
He just goes on quietly working
For those he loves the most
His dreams are seldom spoken
His wants are very few
And most of the time his worries
Will go unspoken too
He's there.... A firm foundation
Through all our storms of life
A sturdy hand to hold to
In times of stress and strife
A true friend we can turn to
When times are good or bad
One of our greatest blessings,
The man that we call ABAH.

I'm just sitting here thinking about what you mean to me,
Remembering all the things you've done for me,
You've been there for me from the start,
Knowing what to say to keep me from falling apart,
Taking everything that comes your way good or bad,
I can't count high enough for every time you've went out of your way,
Knowing you're there keeps me going everyday,
When I need encouragement, you're the first to give it,
When I have a problem, you always have the best advise to fix it,
I could sit here and say Thank-you from now till I die but it wouldn't be enough,
I can only wish if I went through what you did I could be so tough,
I'll always love you unconditionally,
From now till an eternity.

I thank Allah every day because you are always near.
When I need you the most,
We may be thousands of miles apart, but you are always in my Heart.
I found so much Love in you, more than I could ever imagine.
When I was sad you believed in me, I had your Love from the start.
You always showed me the way to go, You were always there for me when I needed you the most.
I would not be able to go on to another day without you.
I know I don't call all the time, and I'm sorry.
You brought so much Joy into my life, You helped me and never let me fall.
I think every day if I will ever see you again.
I know I should not think that, but I guess it is just a daughter thing. 

Abah I don't think you know how much I Love You.
I remember all the fun we had.
I cry every time I think about you.
If I would lose you I don't know what I would do?
You gave me life and you let me live it.
Every breath that I take I remember that you gave me that right to take that breath.
When I was sick you were always right there.
I will always be your little girl, but I need to grow up and move on, but I will never move on from you.
I could go on for days but all you really need to know is that I Love You with all my heart.
And I will always be your little girl no matter how far or close to you I am. 

I LOVE YOU ABAH!!!!

HAPPY 58TH BIRTHDAY!!!

Why I love my mom?

I love her because she carried me in her tummy for 9 months
I love her because she brought me into this world
I love her because she feeds me with the most delicious dishes one could ever imagine
I love her because she makes something warm for me to drink
I love her because she buys me the most beautiful dresses and clothes a daughter could ask for
I love her because she studied my subjects so that she could teach me later
I love her because she sent me to my tuition classes without fail
I love her because she attended my school award ceremonies
I love her because she washed my clothes and iron them very neatly
I love her because she used to do my hair into different styles each day
I love her because she help me combat my "kutu"s 7 hari 7 malam
I love her because she would go all out helping me with my certs and forms for boarding school & sponsors
I love her because she wakes me up for Subuh
I love her because she buys me any food or snacks I needed for boarding school
I love her because she buys me all the books I need for my education
I love her because she passes down her jeweleries, tudungs, brooches, baju etc
I love her because she is the nicest dentist I know
I love her because she reads Surah Yassin for me before my exams
I love her because she reads Surah Nuh for me after my exams
I love her because she prays for me every day and night without fail
I love her because she does "puasa nazar" especially when I get super scared in certain exams
I love her because she is my exercise buddy
I love her because she knows how to make a good bargain
I love her because she is the name I need to call if I lose anything
I love her because she lets me hug and kiss her whenever I like
I love her because she loves to hump to the songs she likes
I love her because she gives me great advices throughout my whole life
I love her because she brings me up whenever I'm down
I love her because she is always there when I need her
I love her because she believes in me
I love her because she understands every part of me just by my body language
I love her because she shares her happiness and sadness with me
I love her because she is strong at heart no matter what comes in life
I love her because she is beautiful
I love her because she is kind
I love her because she is strict when she needs to
I love her because she is honest
I love her because she is the most "waras"

But mainly,
I love her because she is my mom
My one and only mom
My irreplaceable mom
Need I say more??

I love you mom!
Happy Mother's Day!

 

Gone with the wind...

As the wind blows through trees,
Is as if somewhere up there someone is trying to say,
"You may not see Me, but I am here,
Always watching over you,
Watching every step you make,
Right or wrong,
I am here,
Even when no one else is by your side,
I'll always be there for you,
Because I love you so"

Muhasabah Al-Baqarah

[2:44] Mengapa kamu menyuruh orang lain mengerjakan kebaikan sedangkan kamu melupakan dirimu sendiri, padahal kamu membaca kitab? Tidakkah kamu mengerti?

Such a deep ayat that should be reflected by all especially me. It is so easy for us to put a label and judge people as well as giving advices to others according to what we think is right. But have we ever taken our own advices and implement them? As many people say, telinga sang penyampai lebih dekat daripada telinga sang pendengar. So, the advices we give others should reach our ears first. We have to apply them first.
Easier said than done. So kita la yang need to prove to other people that kita cakap serupa bikin. Actions speak louder than words. Lebih mudah berdakwah kepada org melalui qudwah hasanah daripada hanya melalui lisan yg enak didengar.

So ape lagi?

Jom berqudwah hasanah sama2!!!

the end

i see it...i can see it...
the end of this road...
the end of this short-but-feels-freakingly-long journey......
i can see the goal....
i can see where it can lead me....
where i could be.....
where i would be....
where i should be....

but.....................

is it where i want to be?

does it feel right?
maybe its not supposed to feel right...
maybe we just have to do it...
and see...
this is the best for me....
but really???

is it where i want to be?
or just where i am supposed to be?